So practice forgiving yourself.

It won’t be your kid because you read the books and took Lamaze and gave them baths, you made their dinners and rubbed their backs and came home in time and did the work. It won’t be your kid because the school was good and piano lessons and dance classes and baseball and soccer and birthday parties. You’re a doctor, a lawyer, your nanny is great and the grandparents are close and it won’t be your kid because they don’t do that. Whatever that is. It won’t be your kid because you searched their room, or swear you don’t need to. It won’t be your kid because of a backyard swing set and the best pediatrician and college counselor and you read the books again and again and again.